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  • Some children learn that Santa says "No" to some toys, others will be enjoying a new tablet, and still others will be given one by Mom and/or Dad. On my most recent visit to BT Montreal, I talk with Joanne Vrakas about the pro's and con's of giving your kids - and therefore the whole family - expensive tech gifts.
  • Did you ever wonder if, perhaps, there is a reason Santa only delivers once annually? Perhaps he avoids using a noisy motorised vehicle, and evades and face-to-face contact, after millennia of experience with children.
  • Trying to find different and believable ways to dodge questions about expensive presents - and whether Santa will bring them, and why other friends have them - can be exhausting. This column hints at a couple of ideas which can - especially when reinforced over an extended period of time - help ease the burden.
  • On this BT Montreal segment, Wilder Weir and I discuss whether you spend too much time comparing your child's development to other kids'. When we do, we often lose sight of which comparisons are valid, and also of how happy we were with our child before we looked at another family.
  • During my July segment on Breakfast Television, I talk with Joanne Vrakas about how to deal with a sticky situation. How do you handle your child's friend when that friend is a baaaad influence.
  • On my latest BT Montreal segment, I talk with Alex Despatie about homework, and how the amount of arguing and stress - for you and your child - can be reduced with some simple tips:
  • The following is a fictional short story I submitted for the Quebec Writers Federation Short Story Competition. Apparently, it made the first cut but did not qualify among the ten finalist. Following my story's elimination from competition, I was struck by two ideas: 1) Brene Brown and the idea of Daring Greatly, and 2) Remembering I began a blog specifically for the freedom to publish what I want, when I want. So, here is the submission. Thank you for reading.
  • A special thank you to BMO who will make a generous donation to the Sun Youth Organization as part of our partnership for this post. Here is your little player's chance to send their whole team to an MLS game.
  • As part of our collaboration on this post, Canadian Tire has made a generous donation to the Canadian Cancer Society on behalf of this blog. Many items mentioned in this post are also available as part of a giveaway. Just drop a word or two in the comment section, and you're eligible!
  • Now a graduate of the programme, Xiaoyang Luo completed her thesis "Organisational Factors Impacting Fathers’ Use of Parental Benefits in Canada". Some of those conclusions have been summarized in this article she wrote for the Vancouver Sun.
  • On yesterday's appearance on City TV's Breakfast Television, I talk with Joanne Vrakas about how parents can, with their kids help, keep control of their summer schedule, as well as their sanity:
  • My kids have begun to participate in online activities where interaction with others is possible. As parents we become too complacent once our children are occupied and quiet. The Animal Jam team was making sure I remained plugged in.
  • Before becoming a parent I can remember being put off when asked if I could work overtime - or weekends - to replace So-and-So because they had their kids. Now, here I am. Now I am most likely the cause of someone else's occasional misery.
  • -Do you have a five or six-year-old who refuses to eat certain foods? -Is the dinnertable becoming a battle of wills instead of a family gathering? -Is the worry about your picky eater causing stress for your family?
  • How would society react to 17-year-old boys openly admitting that marrying a woman with strong career potential was a high priority? What if they kept their eye out for a good provider?
  • My most recent interview on Breakfast Television Montreal, Joanne Vrakas and I talk about the "Welcome to Parenting" website, which may be the ultimate online resource for new parents.
  • What if, instead of spending time (you may not have) scouring online and off line pages searching for general answers to your very specific concerns, there was one destination which offered personal, accurate, and tailored information?
  • "Dad, remember that project I told you we were starting at school? With the boats?" "Ummm, oh yeah! With the boats!" Please don't tell me I have no memory of enrolling my 9-year-old in a Naval Academy.
  • My most recent interview on Breakfast Television Montreal, Joanne Vrakas and I talk about my vasectomy experience, and why I think men should be encouraged to have the procedure, rather than ask their partner to be in charge of birth control.
  • A special thank you to Mike Cohen, from the Montreal Suburban for his interest in my new book "Men Get Pregnant, Too (despite never pushing a watermelon through a pigeonhole)".

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Great Reads from Elsewhere

  • Cancer
    A man I met digitally through a "Dad Bloggers" Facebook group he founded, and then later in person at the Dad Summit in the states has recently been diagnosed with cancer. Though we have had very few personal interactions, I consider him a friend. He published this post moments ago. It is simply called "Cancer." Its lessons are so plain it's a wonder we need to be reminded of them. If you have the time (which, after reading this you will realize we all do), absorb every word:
  • Stuck in the Middle with You: Parenting Your Teen After Graduation
    A great article from giving concrete tips on guiding your budding adult through the post-grad minefield.
  • Former Seattle daycare teacher encourages 'Duct Tape Parenting'
    No, the duct tape is NOT for the kids...
  • Parenting to Boost Executive Function
    Katherine Eskovitz explains research which argues in favor of developing your child's inner CEO, and against placing too much emphasis on I.Q.
  • Is Having a Baby Really Worth It?
    Caroline Beaulieu's article from the Huffington Post - no truer words were ever spoken about parenthood.
  • I'm Not a SuperMom
    John Kinnear's wife Stevie takes over to explain how she refuses to try to live up to the expectations of the Pinterest SuperMom, and is better for it.
  • Helicopter Parents vs Cotton Wool Kids
    Nancy McDermott from "Spiked" reviews a new book: "Parenting Culture Studies" - produced by researchers at the Centre for Parenting Culture Studies (CPCS) at the University of Kent. Fascinating, and unexpected, revelations about what works - and doesn't - in the world of parenting.
  • Wait Until You Become a Parent
    Some unexpected gut-wrenching revelations from Lexie Lane at Not at all what you'd expect from the title.
  • How Your Bitter Divorce Broke Us Children
    An brutally honest look at the long-term effects on children of an ugly marriage and a bitter divorce.
    Kudos to B.K Mullen. One of the few dads out there ready to publicly discuss their choices to lead a healthier lifestyle. This is his first diet journal.